Monday, June 23, 2008

Afterwards

Anonymous said...
I wondered if you are going to stay in contact with the birth mother after the baby is born and if so to what capacity?


The answer to this question is yes, we will stay in touch with the birth mom. To what extent, only time will tell.

Our birth mom is a precious young girl that we have grown to love and we can't imagine not being in contact with her.

At this point, the plans are to send her photos and updates on the baby. She is going to make a baby book herself, with all the info I send her. Someone who didn't know she was adopting out the baby got her this book and she's decided she'd like to work on it and then when baby is older, we could give it to her and we agreed.

We'll send updates several times this first year of the baby's life. After that, maybe 2 or 3 times a year.

But, who knows? That may all change. And, our birth mom knows that at any time, she can tell us that it's too painful to get the updates and not to send them and we have reassured her that it doesn't mean she doesn't love the baby, etc.

As far as visiting often with the birth mom, we probably won't do that. We want her to get on with her life, etc.

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